Failing, in one word, stinks. After an epic fail, it is sometimes hard to understand that there is a spiritual side of failure – I’m here to tell you there is one.
What Does Failure Mean?
I looked up failure in the dictionary. This is not a fun word. Here are some definitions:
Failure – unsuccessful; lack of success; nonperformance of something due, required or expected, a subnormal quantity or quality.
But what are you bringing to the word? What does this word mean to you? And, how are you allowing it to be a reflection of your inner light and essence?
And, guess what…if you believe that a failure means that you are not enough, not of value, and/or not worthy, then 10-1 you won’t just be trying to process this failure but all the other unresolved defeats, let downs, betrayals and pains of past experiences.
So you don’t just feel that you are “dealing” with this failure. You are reminded of all those times when there was a different outcome than what you desired.
This experience is just letting you know where you feel separate from the Divine (hint: this is the Spiritual side).
I heard that the original meaning of the word sin (in some form of origin) was off the mark. I love that! What if failure meant that you are just off the mark? Would it be less about your essential nature and more about recalibrating?
Are you ready to accept that a failure isn’t a reflection on your essential nature and it just means that you are off the mark?
If our new definition of failure includes off the mark and we accept that it isn’t a reflection of our essential nature, then it becomes an amazing tool of growth. It allows us to see and understand several spiritual aspects:
- Feelings of Separation
- Feelings of Attachment
- Feelings of Ingratitude
A couple of months ago, I attended a talk by an interesting man who created incubators for startups. Several companies that he has helped went on to be bought out by major corporations. And, he said that the most important question he asked new employees was, “What was their biggest failure and what did they learn from it?”
What questions can you connect with your Soul and ask to allow a failure to be a tool for spiritual growth, power and fuel?
I suggest you connect to your Soul via your heart or your Soul Language Team. And, ask the following questions:
- What about this situation “makes me feel” separate, unprotected and not a part of the Divine?
- Why am I so attached to the outcome of this situation?
- Where am I not appreciating all the results in my life, my business, my relationship already?
Take some time to receive answers these questions. And, if you don’t receive any information right away, don’t worry about it. Allow the answers to bubble up (they will).
Awareness to Embodiment
After answers to those questions above were received, I bet you had several ahas? Guess what. Your relationship with failure is already changing just by your attentiveness. And, of course, you want to move into embodying a new way of being (not because you are wanting to avoid failure but because if you can do that, will you contact me).
So here are a couple of ways to embody this new relationship with failure:
- Pause after each “result” and truly be grateful. Don’t rush off to the next action step or result-oriented task.
- Activate the knowing that you are safe and provided for in ways that are seen and unseen. That is just asking your body to simply activate safety and trust in your body (Body, activate safety and trust that I’m being supported for in my body).
- Keep tuning into your Soul and allow the wisdom to guide you and support you at every step of the way.
- Tune into that part of your being that has never been hurt or has failure and allow that to be a safe loving haven.
Failures will come and go (so will successes). The key is to understand that your core-essential nature can never fail. That each relationship, business decision, and thing we create is just us trying to put an expression to that essential nature and sometimes we are off the mark.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader. If you are interested in exploring your own Languages or offering that discovery to someone else, please secure a complimentary 15-minute private session with Jennifer.